Why are women lying about their sexual life
Which of us did not lie an undesirable interlocutor about the presence of a partner? Who did not pretend that he enjoyed in bed, although this did not
correspond to the truth? Here are a few reasons why women are dishonest.
“For a man, a lie is the last remedy;for a woman – first aid, ”said the artist Gelett Bergeses. You can argue with this opposition, but, nevertheless, you should carefully consider the formulation used in the second part of the phrase. Unfortunately, for many centuries, women really had to be dishonest too often. They are blamed, and some still believe that a tendency to lies is almost a biologically determined feature of all women.
The reasons that forced women around the world to inform others of incorrect information about themselves and their sexuality is explored by the sex educational and writer Lux Alptraum. Her book “Prevention: Why do women lie about sex and what truth is hiding behind this” can be recommended to anyone who wants to understand the reasons why women prefer to hide this or that truth about themselves.
The alptraum suggests impartially to look at objects and phenomena that women prefer not to talk to the whole truth. Her book contains evidence of representatives of different cultures, opinions of sociologists, sexologists and lawyers. We have chosen several points from the researcher’s list. Her arguments will help a little better understand the reasons why women do not always tell the truth about themselves.
Orgasm
If earlier female pleasure seemed optional, or even harmful, today we hear that without it and sex is not sex. Guided by good intentions, society drove us into the same trap, only in a different form.
There is nothing wrong with taking care of the partner. But it happens that the woman herself does not want to achieve an orgasm: she is not ready, not in the mood, tired. Perhaps she receives an orgasm in some other way-and he is no worse than the one that is achieved with a partner. But the fear of seeming “wrong” or upset her partner makes her lie that she had already received satisfaction.
“Imitation of orgasm, usually symbolizing the suppression of sexual desires and female dissatisfaction, at the same time frees from the need to comply with the stereotypes that society brought to sexual life, demanding the performance of all elements of the“ program ”,” Lux Alpraium is sure.
In a paradoxically, this seemingly incorrect action gives us the freedom to manage our own bodies and sensations.
By the way, not only women simulate an orgasm. 25% of men during the study conducted in 2010 by the Journal of Sex Research, admitted that at least once in their life they lied about this. Oddly enough, the alptraum notes, but the reason for lies is the same as in women: “Respondents resort to deception if they understand that they are unlikely to reach the climax. They want to round up, complete the act, but at the same time do not want to offend the partner “.